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Well Being or Well Partial? 0

Well Being or Well Partial?

If you break your leg, you immediately go to the doctor.  If you hurt your back, you schedule your massage or chiropractor.  If you are constipated, off to the pharmacy or fruit stand you go. We don’t even think about it.  When our body is hurting, we often react. But not when it is our emotional body that is in pain.  Or mental body BURNED OUT.  Why? I am hearing this again and again in the folks I talk to.  Spending money on our MENTAL WELL BEING feels almost like a luxury.  It feels like we should be able to handle things on our own.  If we can’t, it might feel like we are broken, weak, defective.  So we do what we can to help ourselves through it.   LONELINESS: we drink and build a social life with characters on TV. Angry – we  snap at our family members, are overly critical of our coworkers, overeat.  Scared – we numb out and find things that do to distract us.  Letting that stress build up more and more everyday.  Sometimes it feels like we are holding back these feelings like we are holding back a tidal wave.  Terrified that it will one day…that we will one day…break. In my work, I...

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No Acting, please

That’s what my acting teacher in high school would say. “Wade, no acting, please.” I went to a magnet high school to study theater and dance.  I did my first commercial when I was 12.  I got my college degree in acting, moved to Chicago, and then spent the next few years doing commercials/industrials and working as a certified actor combatant in rapier/dagger, quarterstaff and “street fighting” in a troupe called Babes with Blades.  ( I can throw a punch or a kick to the groin like nobody’s business.)  Also during those years, I trained at Second City, spent 5 years performing and touring physical comedy and improv with Comedysportz.  Then, being really lucky, I got to do some amazing work at Victory Gardens which was known as the Playwright’s Theater at the time, as all the work done was original plays with world premieres.  This was amazing to me!  To build a play from the ground up.  In fact, I was working quite consistently as an actor up until the time I got pregnant with my twins. As a union actress in Equity as well as the Screen Actors Guild, I absolutely loved rehearsing even more than performing.  I never had a desire to “be famous”.  I think that...

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Are You Head or Heart? 0

Are You Head or Heart?

In my work with the Inner Circle, a monthly membership group for women, we are looking at developing the Habit of Daily Journaling with this month’s topic of GRATITUDE. I’ve journaled all my life and I get so much out of it.  Not in the old way, “Dear Diary, I got an A on my test and my neighbor is so mean.”  I find that that kind of brain journaling (although helpful at times) sorta kept me stuck in my mental chatter.  It invigorated my all-ready thought patterns to be more of what they were rather than shifting or evolving them into something that could be extraordinarily useful. So I prefer to encourage clients to use their journaling.  To use these brain drain moments to grow, expand and evolve in order to become more and more of oneself.  In this month’s topic of Gratitude, this week we are looking at the difference between thinking gratitude and feeling it in the way we describe it. How does that look? This was the example I used with the group on Wednesday, “I am grateful for the Inner Circle.  It gives me the experience to explore and dive deeper into my curiosities of what a healthy life looks like in body, mind and spirit. ...

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Using Your Powers for Good 0

Using Your Powers for Good

In my work with the Inner Circle, a monthly membership group for women, we are looking at our eating in Body, Mind AND Spirit.  In other words, what does your diet consist of beyond carbs and proteins?  What do you read, watch, listen and talk about? How much stress are you eating on a regular basis? This week, we talked about something even harder to ponder:  What do you feed others?  Have you ever thought about it? Which friend are you in your community group?  Family group?  Work environment?  Are you the Poison?  The Medicine?  Or mostly neutral? You might be surprised. “When an event is flagged as negative by the brain, it’s stored differently and more carefully by the hippocampus.  He likens the brain to Velcro for negative experiences and Teflon for positive or neutral ones.” Rick Hanson Ponder that.  With our human brains, we are naturally more fully present in our negative experiences than positive ones.  That’s how we are wired!  In fact, this is one of the ways we bond!  We sync up most easily with one another when we are sharing how bad things are.  When we are gossiping about others, dissing politics, complaining how tired we are…etc.  We hold those negative experiences like velcro.  In...

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How Much Stress Is On Your Plate? 0

How Much Stress Is On Your Plate?

In my work with the Inner Circle, a monthly membership group for women, we are on the healthy habit this month of looking at our diet.  Not our calories and protein source, but what we feed ourselves in BODY, in MIND, and in SPIRIT.  Think about that for a second – what does your diet consist of? As I was doing the research for my Inner Circle group this month, I came across a study that started in 2007 of the most common stresses we face.  And, last year, the state of our union ranked over money as a bigger cause of stress.  In other words, POLITICS over MONEY.  That’s a big deal.  Money is always fun to stress about but now POLITICS has jumped that in many of our minds?  Eek.  Does that feel true for you? Ask yourself: How much stress are you  eating on a regular basis?  How much is on your plate?  How much technology are you taking in?  How much overwhelm and burnout are you feeling on a day-to-day basis?  Is it the state of the union that worries you?  Is it caring for an aging parent or loved one? Is it uncertainty and fear about terrorism, global warming, natural disasters that don’t feel quite so...

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Grief – 3 months later

“I  didn’t want to bring it up in case you didn’t want to talk about it.” “Every time I see you, I just want to hug you and ask how you are.” “You are such an inspiration the way you are carrying on with such grace.” “Your hair is getting so long.” These are the things I have been hearing from my loving community.  And, I thank you.  For your words, cards, books, food, check ins, prayers and hugs.  And, yes, I know from the bottom of my bones that I am so dearly loved.  That I am so surrounded and held by such a loving and beautiful community.   (I am slightly embarrassed to admit that I didn’t know all of this love and support was there  3 months ago.  Not to this degree anyway and not in the way I do now.) Bill’s death (3 months ago today, my beloved passed), has given me that.  Pretty crazy.  To lose a love to gain such love.  It’s kinda weird to know that the greatest gift I have received from Bill’s death is this clarity.  “The greatest gift I have ever suffered.” Okay, so it’s 3 months ago today.  How am I?  My hair is long and I just can’t...

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