What does your baby say? Is it upset? Tired? Hurt?
What does it need from you?
If you have been reading me for a while you know I’m talking about your inner baby/inner child. How different we are to the inner child versus the sweet faces that sit around our dinner table with us is what I am pondering.
This exploration has been something I have been diving into in my own life and with a lot of private clients lately. I am constantly blown away at how sweet we are to the external people in our lives and, yet, so impatient, toxic and sometimes even violent we are with our own inner characters…the baby within that didn’t get her needs met, the preschooler who was shamed, the young child who was bullied…etc.
I am asking: can we hold sacred our inner selves even when they are toxic, negative, whiny or scared?
Can we care for them in sweet ways? I am finding often, the answer is no.
No. We don’t want to exhibit patience to ourselves when we fall short or have needs that are unreasonable.
No. We don’t want to be kind to ourselves when we screw up and let others down.
What I am finding juicy about this is THAT is the rub! I love it!
“There is no coming to consciousness without pain. People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own Soul. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.” Carl Jung
To see one’s self in a battle of self-doubt, self-loathing, self-pity is the dark that we want to notice the most.
How does it feel to you when you let others down? How do you feel about yourself when you fall short?
That is the self we seek because that is the one in need of healing! Ignoring the dark inner battle is missing the whole boat!
Feel it. Hold it.
Then, comfort it.
What fascinating creatures we are!
PONDER THIS: that which we are seeking is the part of us that seeks.
(Yeah, read that a couple of times.)
And let me know what you come up with
Hugs to you all!