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Care How You Feel 0

Care How You Feel

Continuing on with your day after a hard night of sleep, an argument with your spouse, perhaps a challenging issue with your health is so physically/ mentally draining.  It’s so hard to bounce back and regain focus of your day, let alone enjoy it. The mental current that is moving the fastest for most of us is usually the one with worry or tension and that can trap you.  Even when the situation happened hours ago, we can churn in those stressed-out or fearful waters all day.  Reliving those moments over and over again.  Not only does this damage our bodies (living in an internal war zone of stress and fear) but it also prevents us from being present in the moment we are in. Does that happen to you?  Do you get to the end of your day and feel almost numb to what took place? We do this to ourselves because we get used to this pattern. Just like any habit that we do again and again  in our lives, only helps encourage it, the same thing goes with our thoughts.  Dwelling in the negative most often creates a solid negative mindset.  We don’t like to think of ourselves as a negative person but ask yourself: are...

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Judgmental much? 0

Judgmental much?

Well, of course, we are all judgmental to some degree or another – we are human.  We judge ourselves and we judge others but are you excessive?  Are you downright mean? This week I have been exploring the idea of standards with some clients and have been pondering it with myself.  What standards have you decided, perhaps unconsciously, that all people should live by?  What standards do you hold for yourself? I continue to find that lots of us hold standards for ourselves that even we can’t live up to.  What kind of crazy rat race is that?  Ponder it.  What do you believe is the right way to be? To always be on time?  To keep the house to a certain level of tidy?  To like this politician is the right choice but to not like that politician is the wrong choice?  We all do it, of course, making choices is part of living your own individual life but where do we cross over to thinking we can control others?  How can we live more mindfully? Ask yourself: where are you most critical with yourself and your loved ones?  Ponder: What if the way you are seeing it isn’t the ONLY way? Uh, yeah. Tara Brach, a psychologist...

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Yeah, I don’t know. 0

Yeah, I don’t know.

About 7 years ago, I had just finished teaching a very fun Yoga for Beginner Class at the then Oak Park Yoga.  In a great mood, immediately following the class, I was sitting in my car at a red light listening to NPR.  There was a story on about something I was interested in.  I can’t remember exactly what it was and what exactly was said, but if I recall it was something about breath.  As I was waiting for the light to turn, the announcer said something that COMPLETELY contradicted something I had JUST told my class about breathing.  I mean, it felt like it was in complete opposition to what I had just shared with a group of people minutes before. I do not remember the exact sticking point but what I do remember is the moment I heard this said on the radio, the exact moment my body flushed with this horrific embarrassment, was the exact moment one of the students that had just attended the class pulled up next to me.  As I sat there completely flooded with shame and self- loathing, she rolled down her window to tell me what a wonderful class and wonderful teacher I am.  I’m her “favorite teacher to study...

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All The Time

Grief and I can’t care what people think. I’m done. I am so humbled to the mystery of life.  I sway back and forth to the dark nights that hover around me all the time, the bullies in the bushes. I am humbled.  Humbled also to the mystery of the deep unknown because where exactly is he?  I can feel a playfulness in the heavens, in and all around me, hugging me, smiling at me – like a playful little rendevous around me all the time. I’m ballet-toeing on the edge between the knowing and the unknown. Today the storm is thawing.  There is heavy ice melting.  The sky is overcast and it’s an unseasonably warm day.  The grounds are soaked and the sounds of dripping water is everywhere.  It’s a crisp cool air blowing in my face.  I need to write this down.  What down?  That there are sales and leasing signs every where I look? Do you feel me now? I looked at the porch door, and just as I thought, it’s swollen from the storm and no longer fits in it’s frame.  The door banging is added to the background. Write this down:  I am satisfied. Here, I am satisfied.  I see the beautiful orchid, it...

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Live Deliberately 0

Live Deliberately

“How do you feel?”  If you have ever worked with me privately or in classes, you will hear me ask this hundreds of times.  “How do you feel?”  Most of the time, people will respond with “Good” “Bad” “Better”.  Yet, those are judgments, as if sad is bad and happy is better.  What if that is not true?  What if it IS just what it IS? A more interesting examination instead, is to explore the question “how do we feel” and then, continuing on, asking it further “and what does that feeling feel like”?  How does a feeling of shame or worry or confident feel on you, in you?  Can you go into that feeling curiously and describe it, embrace it even, until it washes away into the next feeling? Can you ride this pattern without getting swept away by it? For example, this morning I woke up feeling slightly agitated which is not usual for me.  So, in my meditation this morning, I asked myself, “Okay, agitation, what do you feel like?”  Then I spent time really feeling it. It feels like… an unfocused mind…a restless body. Then, we can ask ourselves a pondering question like “what are the thoughts I have swirling today that are causing this...

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Funny with Money

I’m thinking about money this morning.  I’m thinking of the piano lessons, the art classes, the Costco trips, the plane tickets to Florida for the kids and I to visit Nana this Spring.  I’m thinking of the money going out and the money coming in.  The money going out and the money coming in.  It’s quite powerful, observing this flow of energy and the emotions attached. It all started a little while ago when I noticed myself and the way I felt each time I sat down to do my billing.  Since the beginning of adulthood, every other week I would be filled with such anxiety and dread as I sat down with my checkbook.  Every month, for years, I could feel such feelings of resentment as I would pay my Verizon bill, my Comcast bill, our big-ass Health Insurance bill.  Every month, I would feel truly angry about the money that had to go out every month.  The epitome of a Scarcity Mindset. At the same time as this, on the other side of my money perspective review, I would hear from potential clients who wanted and/or needed my services of Personal Coaching or Private Lessons but for whatever reason, felt that they couldn’t afford spending the money...

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