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How Much Stress Is On Your Plate? 0

How Much Stress Is On Your Plate?

In my work with the Inner Circle, a monthly membership group for women, we are on the healthy habit this month of looking at our diet.  Not our calories and protein source, but what we feed ourselves in BODY, in MIND, and in SPIRIT.  Think about that for a second – what does your diet consist of? As I was doing the research for my Inner Circle group this month, I came across a study that started in 2007 of the most common stresses we face.  And, last year, the state of our union ranked over money as a bigger cause of stress.  In other words, POLITICS over MONEY.  That’s a big deal.  Money is always fun to stress about but now POLITICS has jumped that in many of our minds?  Eek.  Does that feel true for you? Ask yourself: How much stress are you  eating on a regular basis?  How much is on your plate?  How much technology are you taking in?  How much overwhelm and burnout are you feeling on a day-to-day basis?  Is it the state of the union that worries you?  Is it caring for an aging parent or loved one? Is it uncertainty and fear about terrorism, global warming, natural disasters that don’t feel quite so...

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Grief – 3 months later 3

Grief – 3 months later

“I  didn’t want to bring it up in case you didn’t want to talk about it.” “Every time I see you, I just want to hug you and ask how you are.” “You are such an inspiration the way you are carrying on with such grace.” “Your hair is getting so long.” These are the things I have been hearing from my loving community.  And, I thank you.  For your words, cards, books, food, check ins, prayers and hugs.  And, yes, I know from the bottom of my bones that I am so dearly loved.  That I am so surrounded and held by such a loving and beautiful community.   (I am slightly embarrassed to admit that I didn’t know all of this love and support was there  3 months ago.  Not to this degree anyway and not in the way I do now.) Bill’s death (3 months ago today, my beloved passed), has given me that.  Pretty crazy.  To lose a love to gain such love.  It’s kinda weird to know that the greatest gift I have received from Bill’s death is this clarity.  “The greatest gift I have ever suffered.” Okay, so it’s 3 months ago today.  How am I?  My hair is long and I just can’t...

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Care How You Feel 0

Care How You Feel

Continuing on with your day after a hard night of sleep, an argument with your spouse, perhaps a challenging issue with your health is so physically/ mentally draining.  It’s so hard to bounce back and regain focus of your day, let alone enjoy it. The mental current that is moving the fastest for most of us is usually the one with worry or tension and that can trap you.  Even when the situation happened hours ago, we can churn in those stressed-out or fearful waters all day.  Reliving those moments over and over again.  Not only does this damage our bodies (living in an internal war zone of stress and fear) but it also prevents us from being present in the moment we are in. Does that happen to you?  Do you get to the end of your day and feel almost numb to what took place? We do this to ourselves because we get used to this pattern. Just like any habit that we do again and again  in our lives, only helps encourage it, the same thing goes with our thoughts.  Dwelling in the negative most often creates a solid negative mindset.  We don’t like to think of ourselves as a negative person but ask yourself: are...

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Judgmental much? 0

Judgmental much?

Well, of course, we are all judgmental to some degree or another – we are human.  We judge ourselves and we judge others but are you excessive?  Are you downright mean? This week I have been exploring the idea of standards with some clients and have been pondering it with myself.  What standards have you decided, perhaps unconsciously, that all people should live by?  What standards do you hold for yourself? I continue to find that lots of us hold standards for ourselves that even we can’t live up to.  What kind of crazy rat race is that?  Ponder it.  What do you believe is the right way to be? To always be on time?  To keep the house to a certain level of tidy?  To like this politician is the right choice but to not like that politician is the wrong choice?  We all do it, of course, making choices is part of living your own individual life but where do we cross over to thinking we can control others?  How can we live more mindfully? Ask yourself: where are you most critical with yourself and your loved ones?  Ponder: What if the way you are seeing it isn’t the ONLY way? Uh, yeah. Tara Brach, a psychologist...

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Yeah, I don’t know. 0

Yeah, I don’t know.

About 7 years ago, I had just finished teaching a very fun Yoga for Beginner Class at the then Oak Park Yoga.  In a great mood, immediately following the class, I was sitting in my car at a red light listening to NPR.  There was a story on about something I was interested in.  I can’t remember exactly what it was and what exactly was said, but if I recall it was something about breath.  As I was waiting for the light to turn, the announcer said something that COMPLETELY contradicted something I had JUST told my class about breathing.  I mean, it felt like it was in complete opposition to what I had just shared with a group of people minutes before. I do not remember the exact sticking point but what I do remember is the moment I heard this said on the radio, the exact moment my body flushed with this horrific embarrassment, was the exact moment one of the students that had just attended the class pulled up next to me.  As I sat there completely flooded with shame and self- loathing, she rolled down her window to tell me what a wonderful class and wonderful teacher I am.  I’m her “favorite teacher to study...

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All The Time

Grief and I can’t care what people think. I’m done. I am so humbled to the mystery of life.  I sway back and forth to the dark nights that hover around me all the time, the bullies in the bushes. I am humbled.  Humbled also to the mystery of the deep unknown because where exactly is he?  I can feel a playfulness in the heavens, in and all around me, hugging me, smiling at me – like a playful little rendevous around me all the time. I’m ballet-toeing on the edge between the knowing and the unknown. Today the storm is thawing.  There is heavy ice melting.  The sky is overcast and it’s an unseasonably warm day.  The grounds are soaked and the sounds of dripping water is everywhere.  It’s a crisp cool air blowing in my face.  I need to write this down.  What down?  That there are sales and leasing signs every where I look? Do you feel me now? I looked at the porch door, and just as I thought, it’s swollen from the storm and no longer fits in it’s frame.  The door banging is added to the background. Write this down:  I am satisfied. Here, I am satisfied.  I see the beautiful orchid, it...

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